Amanda: Hey guys. Welcome back to the podcast. I am Amanda.
Laura: I'm Laura
Kendra: and I'm Kendra.
Laura: And today we're just going to talk some more about relationships. We've had two podcasts now on losing strategies and relationships. And those losing strategies come incredibly easily and naturally to us all. They're kind of like the default mode and to have good relationships.
We really have to focus and be intentional about the way we show up. So we had one episode on winning strategies and we're going to have another one now to give you some more ideas. It's so easy to hear about what not to do and like, Oh yeah, okay, of course I'm not going to do that. Not knowing what to do often presents a problem especially for those of us who are used to see one, do one, teach one.
So it's like, if we're putting in a central line, whatever you do, don't drop the lung. Okay. But that's not telling me how to do the procedure. So we want to see how to do it, especially for those of us who are raised in homes that. Did not have healthy relationships modeled and most of us didn't come up in homes that had people who knew how to treat each other in a relational way.
So here are a few more winning strategies that we can apply to make life better for each other. Us and for all the people we are in relationship with.
Kendra: Okay. So strategy one is radical self acceptance. And once again, we're talking about these strategies and giving an example and then how to apply it. So the definition is radical self acceptance means embracing all aspects of oneself, strengths, weaknesses, quirks, and imperfections. And we do this without judgment or the need to hide or overcompensate.
Man, what a safe place that would be if we could all be in relationships with all of that. But this involves letting go of the desire for external validation and understanding that self worth is intrinsic. and not dependent on the partner's approval. So, here's the scenario. Alex struggles with insecurity about their tendency to overthink and would often seek reassurance from Jamie to feel better.
This creates pressure in the relationship as Jamie feels burdened by the need to constantly soothe Alex's doubts. Through self acceptance, Alex recognizes overthinking as a natural tendency, works on self regulating these thoughts, and no longer needs external validation to feel okay. Jamie, in turn, feels less pressure to manage Alex's emotions, and it leads to more balanced dynamics. So, basically, radical self acceptance fosters authenticity, and emotional independence, creating a healthier space for honest connection.
It allows both partners to focus on mutual growth rather than compensating for unresolved insecurities. So, this is
Laura: add something about that, K. It's like, is that if you are someone who relies on external validation, you are completely normal. And as physicians, almost all of us do. We tie up our self worth in our patient care and being a doctor and excelling. And when we don't have other people telling us what a great job we're doing or having that reinforcement, sometimes we lose our sense of self. And so it's really, that's one of the things we work on with our clients is like. Is learning to accept ourselves and love ourselves, regardless of what's going on around us so that so that we can show up this way with true authenticity and emotional independence.
Kendra: Strategy number two is taking responsibility for your own happiness. This was a big one for me. Definition is taking responsibility for your own happiness involves understanding That fulfillment and joy comes from within not from external sources including your partner.
It requires actively pursuing your passions, Interests, and self care to create a rich inner life rather than relying on a partner to meet all emotional needs. So, here's the scenario. Jamie used to rely heavily on Alex to create excitement in their social life, feeling frustrated when Alex didn't meet their expectations.
After reflecting on this dynamic, Jamie decided to join a weekly hiking group. This new activity brought Jamie personal satisfaction and reduced the burden on Alex to constantly provide entertainment, restoring balance in the relationship. So by taking ownership of their happiness, individuals reduce the pressure on their partners to be the sole source of fulfillment, which leads to a partnership rooted in shared joy rather than dependency and allowing both individuals to thrive. So this is, this is a really good point. I think we, I've said this before, I think I posted on social media that our joy is our job. And that was kind of mind blowing for me because as a people pleaser, you kind of self sacrifice all the time. And then when you finally figure out what does bring you joy, just being able to embrace that and Have that need fulfilled by what you actually like to do.
And by like something you really want to do instead of like just going along with what everybody else wants to do.
Amanda: Yeah, my biggest one was expecting too much from my job. Like, for my job to be fulfilling not only with, like, making a difference with patients, but then when I was frustrated or upset, like, fully blaming my job. Whereas, like, maybe that's too much to ask. I'm sure the garbage dude isn't, like, rolling out of bed, like, super excited every day, but I had full expectations that I would be 100 percent fulfilled by my work. Which it is fulfilling, but I also think I had some unrealistic expectations of it as well. And there's nothing wrong with me doing things outside of work to spark a light, you know?
That's on me, that I'm sitting around ruminating and feeling miserable about something completely out of my control. Why don't I go have fun? That, what, I've got an idea.
Laura: Right. Yeah.
Amanda: Let's talk about it and go do something.
Laura: Yeah. So, I mean, and I think we all do this. Like, if we're unhappy, we're like, looking for who or what to blame and what I realized the 1st thing I need to do if I feel unhappy is to look inside. And what, what am I doing that is not, you know, not aligning with my values? How am I being a way that I don't respect? Or how am I not, how am I not providing for my own needs or doing things that help me feel happy? And
Amanda: right.
Laura: And then address those first.
Amanda: And I don't want to sound gaslighty. There's tons of things in medicine that need to be addressed. It's just, there was nothing stopping me from taking a vacation or doing something else to spark joy in myself. I just wasn't.
Laura: Right. Right. Or just like, go get a different career. Like, if it's
Amanda: Yeah. You can..
Laura: If you hate it that bad and there's nothing going to change. I mean, there are, I do think there are some situations in medicine right now that maybe that's it. If you've hated medicine the entire time you've been in your career and it's only getting worse, then yeah. Okay. If you need, think you need a circumstance change, then talk with us.
Yeah, come talk to us first, but like, if you need a circumstance change, that's true. Right. But it's in, it's in our own power is the point is that we get stuck when we put things out in power outside of ourselves. It's in our power and it's our responsibility to take the initiative we need to do to take care of ourselves.
Amanda: I will say too, I'll just put a plug. On the show notes, scroll down and we do a free session with a physician coach. So like, if this is bringing, if this is like triggering or like, "you don't understand." Maybe we don't understand. Book a session with us and we'll see, like, if it's. If it is something that, that you could take back some ownership with, or if it, this is a complete lost cause, like, we can help get some clarity on that too.
Laura: Yeah,
Kendra: and I think a different. I, I would have been triggered by this cause I've, I also believe the choice. Like I would have been fighting back, like, I don't have a choice. I'm the only one taking care of the kids and cooking and laundering and blah, blah, blah, blah. Right. And so I would have definitely deflected and then like, believe the lie that I had no choice.
Actually, I have a choice. I choose to spend my time doing that stuff. And now I choose a little bit different. And I allocate my time to doing something fun, pickleball, and going out, like getting a massage, or getting my nails done, or something to like, get me in the right headspace, or just taking a nap, or just whatever, but it is now become a priority.
I choose to put my mental, emotional, physical, spiritual health as a priority now. Where I felt like all this self sacrifice and doing all the things for all the people, like, we're gonna win me some kind of badge, cookies, I don't know, trophy.
Amanda: Yeah. Great. Yeah. I just say that because I feel like all three. Like, all three of us would have been wildly triggered by that.
Laura: Oh, yeah. Yeah. I've been like, how dare you. How dare you suggest that this is in any way in my control? Absolutely. I dare you. I absolutely would have been that way. And it's like, of course. And you know, we have different levels of choice available to us. There is choice. You don't have to go to work anymore if you don't want to.
Amanda: True. You don't even have to raise your kids. I mean, there are people that have gone to jail for dumping their kids off. That's an option. But you probably don't actually want that, even though you're like, I've got to. There's a lot of things you don't, you don't even have to pay taxes. You can also enjoy a time, a prison stint. And not pay your taxes, but so you actually do want to pay your taxes as opposed to.
Laura: Or move to a country that doesn't have taxes. There are a few of those left. So you have choices.
Kendra: Okay. So number three is practicing empathy and compassion. So, sounds pretty straightforward, but it means intentionally understanding and considering a partner's feelings.
This is that understanding part that we've talked about in the previous podcast, whereas outcome isn't as important as an understanding. Know that's that's difficult. Just kinda let that sink in. I know. I know just go with it. So you're considering your partner's feelings, needs and perspectives, especially in moments of conflict.
And so this is what we're talking about. Instead of jumping to conclusions or responding with criticism, it involves stepping into their shoes and approaching disagreements with care and patience. So it's just like that kind of famous, like, visual of the person that's down in the hole and like sympathy is like looking over the edge and being like gosh I see you're down the hole. I'm sorry for you. Empathy is like climbing down in there putting your arm around and being like well I'm gonna sit down in this hole with you and we're gonna do this together. Or i'm gonna be available to you or something like that. So empathy and compassion is taking that extra step and really leaning in to understand what's happening.
So the scenario is alex arrives late for a planned dinner date leaving jamie feeling annoyed and unappreciated And so I'm immediately criticizing Alex. Jamie pauses and asks, is everything okay? Alex shares that they had an overwhelming day at work. Jamie listens empathetically, offering support rather than frustration, which transforms a potentially tense situation into a moment of connection. So, compassion and empathy quickly de escalate conflicts by replacing blame with understanding and this practice strengthens trust and emotional safety, and over time deepens the bond between partners. So, this is This is tough. This is not easy, especially if you have a partner that does this on the repeat. So they're, they're not quite understanding what it means to you to like be late or feel like you're always getting put second or third or fourth to whatever they're attending to at the time. And so this does take some intentionality to really not only Pause and then ask if everything's okay, but also to really say, take the next step.
And we've talked about this in the discussion. I feel disregarded. I feel not as important as everything else in your life. And then state your need, I really need you to call, or I really need to see that you're making an effort to make it a priority most of the time. Like, emergencies come up. We understand. But being able to be brave enough to just say, like, I feel second rate. I do not feel like a priority in your life when you're constantly showing up late, or you don't call and you're late, or whatever it is. And then you state what you need. I need you to show up and do whatever you can to show up on time. Or whatever it is, or do whatever you can to make date night this week, or This month, a priority and not cancel again for the second time, whatever it is.
It, it does take some bravery, but it also makes it about you. You're the one feeling frustrated. Cause you feel like that partner isn't whatever. And sometimes just saying that effects like that can, that piece of communication can really be like, Oh, like your partner may not have ever even thought of that.
Right. And so. It may give them a perspective that was like, Oh, yeah, that does probably send that message or I can see where that is coming from or whatever. So it definitely deescalates in a point of high tension, but it's going to take some practice and it really, it really does work on self control because usually I just want to punch in the throat.
Laura: Well, I love the way that you're pointing, like you're modeling the, I feel language because it's certainly my natural go to would be like, when you're late, you make me feel, you know, like disregarded, or you make me feel like you don't care or whatever. It's more like, it's a violent communication when you're accusing and blaming someone for that situation, rather than saying, I feel, I feel sad when you are late.
That is pulling back the responsibility onto ourselves. And still expressing what the results of their actions are. So it's subtle, but the outcome of the different communication styles is radically different. So it's worth practicing.
Amanda: For, for this strategy, though, practicing compassion and empathy, though, it's, it's almost like a practice of trying to understand where they're coming from, rather than just expressing where you're from, too. And that's something that really is an incredible skill to, to practice metacognition where you're stepping outside of yourself to not think, take things personally and to try to figure out why they're doing the things that they're doing. Maybe the reason why they're doing the thing that they're doing truly does end up being something that you don't want to hear or know about, or that's not fixable.
In which case, You know, then you have to make a decision. But, the empathy and compassion itself is just trying to be open to maybe my judgment about why they're doing the thing isn't at face value, and I need to be open and curious about where this is coming from. And that's a hard thing to do when you're feeling attacked or Disregarded or disrespected or whatever, but I've been wrong.
I know shocking. I've been wrong about why people are doing certain things before. And I, yeah, I didn't know their background.
Laura: One little piece of information, that one little piece of information can change the whole feeling of the situation. And like, that's where it's the language is helpful. Like it seems like, you know, it seems like you're having trouble making it on time to our dates.
And what I'm making that mean, or the story I'm telling myself is that you don't care about me. Is there a different, you know, is there something different? Like, how, how can I understand this better? What's going on that that this is happening and how can I help now? So much safer, like it creates more safety and a more collaborative space than what's wrong with you. You can't be anywhere on time, you know?
Amanda: Mean, I do like the, the being open and you may discover there's a completely great explanation for why things are happening. There may not be a great explanation, but you have to at least be open to finding that out before you go to the next steps. All right, so strategy four is clear and kind communication.
Clear and kind communication involves expressing your thoughts, feelings, and needs directly and respectfully. It avoids passive aggressive behavior, sarcasm, expecting a partner to read your mind. Dadgumit.
Laura: Wait, passive aggressive behavior and sarcasm aren't good for your relationship?
Amanda: This is, this is not good news at all. This approach emphasizes clarity, fostering mutual understanding and problem solving. So here's our scenario where Alex feels overwhelmed with chores and notices Jamie hasn't been contributing as much lately. So instead of harboring resentment or dropping hints, Alex directly but kindly says, Hey, I've been feeling overwhelmed with everything on my plate.
Could we work out a plan to split the chores more evenly? And with this request. And, we call this a request. you are allowed to request anything of your significant other. It's just the response of Can't control your emotions. So when Alex makes the request, Jamie responds positively, appreciating the straightforwardness and willingness to collaborate. There are some of us out there that don't pick up on subtle cues quite as well as others. I May fall into that category sometimes. And so, yeah, if you can just let me know why it is that. How I can help, it's a lot easier for me sometimes. And so, the commentary, open, respectful communication reduces misunderstandings, it eliminates the guesswork, and builds a strong foundation of trust.
And it can help both partners feel heard and valued, making collaboration and resolution easier. So here's another scenario. Jamie feels hurt when Alex frequently checks their phone during conversations. So instead of giving Alex the silent treatment, Jamie kindly expresses the need for more focused time together. Alex appreciates the clarity and agrees to set aside the phone during their time. And so, with this application, clear communication prevents the misunderstandings. And then fosters a respectful environment where both feel heard.
This is hard because I can't tell you how many people are like, my partner should just know. Except for that, everything is not built into a lot of us. So you can hold on to that tightly, as tightly as you wish. It's just, how's that working for you? And if it keeps backfiring, is it worthwhile to try actually saying what it is that you need? Like, what would that be? And I know I hear you already saying like, it won't matter. Okay. Tell me that after you actually do it. give them a chance. Then, if it keeps not working, then you do have some decisions to make, but it, I'm just telling you it's hard for most of us to read minds, unfortunately. What do y'all think?
Laura: Yeah. Well, and I think as soon as we start feeling resentful, that is our clue that we need to speak up. And if you can't get out of that cycle of. I mean, being resentful, guess what? It's people can tell, like, it's your, it's not like you're You're being all secretive about it. It is showing and it's polluting the atmosphere of your relationship. And so when you have feel that feeling of resentment, it's time to make a request. And then, yeah, if, if you are met with respect, then you know that like, you can help move the relationship forward. If you're met with dismissal and you can't get through then, and that is a pattern, then you do need to ask yourself, do I want to live in resentment or do I need to figure out a different path?
So that resentment is a clue. And we feel a lot of resentment as we work in medicine. We have to ask ourselves, is this because I'm putting, is it because I'm putting my happiness in the hands of the system that just couldn't give a rip? Or is something really indecent happening, and what am I going to do about it? Am I just going to keep living resentfully? That's like, it's not good for our health, like physical or mental. And the resentment is telling us we need to speak up.
Amanda: I do love Brene Brown's take that resentment. If you just take the person out of it, the person that you're feeling resentful for it. If you take that out of it, all it's telling you is what you want. Maybe you want to rest. Then go rest! You know? Maybe you want to not So then don't do all the things. You know, it is, if you can take the the person out of the resentment, it, all it's telling you is clarifying exactly what you need to, to make happen for yourself. All right. So number five is setting healthy boundaries.
This is, this is key. I think this is the secret to the universe is healthy boundaries. And I just don't think that we get a great example of how to do this growing up. So, so setting healthy boundaries means clearly understanding and communicating your limits, values, and needs in a relationship, or at a job, while respecting your partner's boundaries as well.
It involves finding a balance that protects your individuality and well being without infringing on your partner's freedoms or needs. It's not about controlling another person. It is about establishing where your boundaries begin and end.
So here's our example scenario. Alex needs quiet Sunday mornings to recharge while Jamie thrives on socializing during weekends. They discuss their preferences and agree that Jamie will make brunch plans with friends while Alex enjoys uninterrupted alone time. This agreement reduces tension and ensures that both can honor their needs without conflict. So it's just being upfront, being authentic And then deciding what , the other component that we talk about a lot in coaching is like, what are you going to do about it?
Whenever those boundaries get violated, that's what establishes a boundary is like, when I get asked to pick up the third shift, I say no. That's what the boundary is. You say no, or when you are spoken to disrespectfully, you can choose to leave the vicinity. Or when somebody shows up unexpectedly and you have discussed with them that that's not appropriate, you don't open the door.
It's what you have control over is your boundary. And so healthy boundaries allow partners to maintain their individuality while fostering mutual respect. They prevent over reliance, reduce resentment, and create a relationship where both people feel understood and valued. If you can get good at boundaries, it is an incredible upgrade to your life.
Laura: Oh, yes. Yes. Even if you're bad at boundaries, but are better than you used to be, which is probably me. So much better. So much better.
Amanda: All right, last strategy is repairing, last strategy I'm going to talk about is repairing quickly after conflict. So repairing quickly after conflict means prioritizing reconciliation and resolution over winning or being right. And you really have to ask yourself what matters more being right or being, isn't that what Terry says, being right or being married?
Laura: Yeah. Yeah. So sometimes a hard question to answer
Amanda: it. I know sometimes. Maybe I feel like that's fair that sometimes it can vary. But yeah, prioritizing reconciliation and resolution over winning or being right. It requires humility. I can already feel that for sure. Taking responsibility for one's actions. Dang it. And willingness to apologize and move forward. This approach minimizes lingering resentments and restores harmony. Those lingering resentments are just poison. And I know because I've had them. I'm speaking from experience.
So here's our scenario. Alex and Jamie argue over household chores, with both feeling unappreciated. After taking some time to cool off, Alex approaches Jamie and apologizes for using a harsh tone. Jamie, in turn, acknowledges their own impatience during the argument, and together they agree on a fairer way to divide chores, allowing them to resolve the issue and strengthen their teamwork. I like how all of these end well.
Might not, but at least you have like more information you know, to choose your path forward. But hopefully, whenever you are taking, you know, control of your own emotions, you are just in a better. You're so much better able to negotiate when you have that emotional capacity to have these sorts of conversations. So quick repair demonstrates the commitment to the relationship's well being over individual pride. It fosters trust, reduces the emotional toll of unresolved conflicts, and reinforces the sense of being on the same team. Being on a team feels good.
Laura: And it doesn't mean you have to agree with the other person. We never, you never have to capitulate to other people's ideas, but it's where we, we just show that we care about the relationship and care about the other person's feelings. So, and notice that both those people in that scenario are able to like self confront or look at themselves and look at their own part in it, because we, as much as it seems like it's entirely our partner's fault all the time, we invariably play some kind of role in what's going on.
And so that leads us to the next winning strategy, which is our commitment to personal growth. And what that means is the commitment to personal growth involves actively working on improving yourself, emotionally, intellectually, or behaviorally to become a better partner and individual. This includes identifying areas for improvement, seeking out resources and making continuous efforts to evolve. So it means that we can see that we are on a developmental path. We're growing. We're not perfect. We still have things that We have rough edges that can be smoothed off. We have things that we can improve on to help us be better. So here's a scenario. Jamie notices that their habit of interrupting during conversations often frustrates Alex. Recognizing this, Jamie signs up for a communication workshop to learn better listening skills. I would say you don't have to sign up for anything. Just noticing the interrupting and trying to do better, acknowledging its effect on other people, is Is a great step forward.
Over time jamie's improved communication reduces arguments and Alex feels more valued and heard, strengthening their trust and connection. So personal growth enhances the relationship by allowing each partner to bring their best selves. It fosters mutual respect, reducing recurring issues, and encourages the relationship to evolve in a positive direction. And Dr. Finlayson- Fife, who we referred to in a previous podcast, she talks about the ability to self confront as being the the mechanism for growth in a relationship. So, if we always expecting our partner to change, but aren't looking at ourselves and what we need to do to change and what we need to do to be better, then the relationship can't grow and vice versa.
If you're trying to grow all the time and your, your partner just. cannot self confront, then you're going to be limited in how intimate you can make that relationship.
Kendra: You can consider a coaching session with us signing up for a communication workshop.
Laura: Oh, absolutely. Absolutely.
Kendra: Come on in, sign up.
Laura: Yeah, come on in. Okay. Next strategy appreciation and gratitude. So regular regularly acknowledging and expressing gratitude for a partner's qualities and efforts. This makes a huge, huge difference and think we all know this. We all love to feel appreciated, and it doesn't mean that we have to say, I appreciate you for things that don't matter to us. It can be, appreciate you for going to work every day. And for, you know, not laying on the couch eating Cheetos, watching Netflix. I appreciate that, that you care enough to take a shower. Or, you know, I, like, if we're having a hard time thinking of things that we're appreciative of, appreciate how You put your arm around me. Or I appreciate that you set up a date for us. All of these things.
I appreciate how kind you are, or that you like to cook sometimes too. That these are all things that can help our partner feel good and loved and appreciated.
So here's a scenario, Alex and Jamie start a tradition of sharing something they appreciate about each other before bed. One night, Alex thanks Jamie for always making morning coffee and Jamie expresses gratitude for Alex's support. This habit deepens their connection. And the Gottman's talk about the, it used to be the five to one rule, but now I'm hearing more and more that it's 15 to one where you're supposed to have 15 positive interactions for every one negative interaction. And these expressions of gratitude and appreciation really go far in terms of filling up that emotional bank account with positive interactions.
So when we express appreciation, it fosters positivity and prevents a transactional feeling and and highlighting each partner's unique contributions. In a transactional relationship is one where obviously, if you do this for me, then I'll do this for you. And. That might seem like it makes sense at first, but over time, that definitely leads to resentment because they're, they're, it just can never be completely even. They're different phases in life where we'll have different abilities to, to show up in different ways. And, and we just bring different skills and, and talents to the relationship.
So being transactional is just going to lead to more resentment and disconnection. So when we can be appreciative and acknowledge our gratitude for the different ways are, and it is true that opposites attract, so it's likely that we're married to someone who is, or that we're in partnership with someone who is a lot different than we are.
And how does that make our lives better? What are the ways that they do things that help us to live better? So, All of those help foster that connection. So each of these winning strategies is one more step that we each can make towards having relational fulfillment or really intimate relationship where we have joy and a feeling of ease together and just like loving to be around each other.
That we all thought was just part of the deal. Like we thought that was just going to happen. And somehow it's not, it doesn't, it's not the natural way things play out for most of us. So what, again, what we invite you to do is not to look at how your partner could implement these winning strategies.
These are for each of us to reflect on for ourselves. How can we be different? And you use these winning strategies to help our relationships. And if we feel like they don't help our relationships, they are definitely going to help ourselves. They help us come to decision points and to be better people so that even if the current relationship isn't viable, we come to the next relationship with those winning strategies.
And just as a reminder, relationships are like so many other things in life. They are a journey and it is a journey of growth, hopefully. And in a healthy relationship, both people are growing together and becoming better people and learning to understand each other more and learning to be more relational, kinder, more empathic over time. And we're not going to be perfect at it. We certainly aren't perfect, perfect at it naturally. And even over time, we'll still mess up. These are just some tools that we can help that we can use to help move the needle in the right direction.
Kendra: Yep. And keep in mind that we're bringing all this forward. We all have gone through classes and certified coaching and all the things. So we have done the work to lay the foundation. And so it is a little bit easier to talk about now that we're on this side of the education and doing the work, not only on ourselves, but also. You know, getting it to where it's comfortable talking about this. It's going to be a little dicey at first, but just take it with a grain of salt. Just, just listen. Just kind of find one or two things. This is not meant to just embrace all 25 of these things we've talked about and go for it. Cause it will be overwhelming and you'll feel a bit defeated.
So take it with a grain of salt. There's, there's You know, very small changes that you can make on the daily. And over time, you will find that then you can build on that and definitely it makes a difference. And you'll, you'll be 2 or 3 weeks down the road and look back and be like, wow, you know, there's just some things that have happened over these last few weeks.
Very small changes. Small, subtle changes, like saying one good, saying one thing you're thankful for to your partner before bed. Like, that's amazing. I imagine what that could do and expressing appreciation and admiration or fondness, like may just put you in the mood for doing something a little bit later, right?
So, I mean, imagine feeling, feeling appreciated right before you're expected to do the snuggle buddy there. So. Anyways, we hope this helps. We want you to go down and leave us a review and give us five stars because it will make our ripple that much bigger and we want to get all this goodness out to the ones that need it.
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