#37: Anger with Arpita Gupta-DePalma, MD

This week we are excited to introduce you to our friend, Dr. Arpita Gupta-DePalma. A pediatrician by training, she now specializes in coaching for anger. Today she gives some tips on what to do when anger is negatively affecting your life.


  • Many times anger is a secondary emotion. We feel angry because it feels more powerful, more protective, than something like disappointment or sadness. It can  feel better than embarrassment or shame, for example.
  • While most of the time anger gives us results that we don't want, it CAN be used to harness energy for change.
  • Changing from anger as a default requires a lot of grace. A lot of people have shame around it.
  • The first step is building awareness around your anger.
  • The second step is recognizing where it shows up in your body.
  • Next, Dr. DePalma recommends pulling yourself out of the situation. She many times will excuse herself to the bathroom.
  • Then you can process the anger and decide what you want to do.
  • There is tremendous power in pausing before responding to anger. Anger creates an imaginary sense of urgency.


To reach Dr. Arpita DePalma or find out more about her new course on anger, visit her website

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