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#18: "Stop Shoulding All Over Your Sex Life" with Kelly Casperson, MD

On this episode we host, Dr Kelly Casperson. Dr Casperson has a number one, best selling Amazon book that just released on June 28th. She is a urologist wife, mom, sex educator, and top international podcaster, whose mission is empowering women to live their best lives. We have such a candid, real and transparent conversation about her new book and how women can stop "should-ing" all over their sex lives!!  Hope you enjoy this episode as much as we did!

Some of our favorite moments:

Dr Kelly Casperson's quotables,

  • We've got like Hollywood and religion and our parents and the school system, that's giving us a sex education. It's mostly like a disease and pregnancy prevention plan, but like a truly adult education is totally lacking.
  • “Oh, well you're not broken, 70% of women don't.” You know, so it's just like part of the normalization of these people's experience. Because where are they supposed to go?
  • But it's like even trying to get out medically accurate stuff is very, very difficult. Like on Instagram I have to, I have to say intimacy a lot. Like intimacy is my code word for sex. But I mean, intimacy is so much bigger than sex, but I don't feel comfortable saying sex cuz I don't wanna get blocked.
  • You know, don't turn sex into like, four hours of cardiovascular exercise and eight fruits and vegetables and eight hours of sleep and like, you know, two sexual things a week. It's like the whole point of this is adult play. Like it's supposed to be playful. It's supposed to be fun. It's supposed to be, you know, bring added pleasure to your life. And it's like all that shame and "shoulds" we put on ourselves.
  • I always like to normalize responsive desire. And what we see is again, stereotyping, which is easy to do, but it's helpful sometimes. Is that women tend more towards responsive desire than spontaneous
  • And if you can learn to communicate and if you can learn to like, be on somebody's team. Like at the end of the day, you're on their team and you're just trying to solve a problem. And, and what I've found in the sex coach thing that I do is like, is actually rarely about the sex. It's usually, there's usually something else going on.

To find Dr Kelly Casperson, go to:

@kellycaspersonmd (Instagram)

Podcast: "You Are Not Broken" with Kelly Casperson

Book Just Released:  

You Are Not Broken: Stop "Should-ing" All Over Your Sex Life, Dr KJ Casperson, June 28, 2022.